Mystery of Meditation

Don’t let the word ‘meditation’ scare you. It’s not just sitting cross-legged on the floor, in a dark room with soft music playing.

Meditation can be:

  • A long walk
  • Smiling at someone in the check-out line at the grocery store
  • Not getting upset when a car cuts in front of you
  • It’s being grateful

It’s noticing the positive around us as often as possible.

It’s learning to understand the importance of being opened to change.

Dealing with ‘an aging parent’ or spouse is stressful, that won’t change. But anyone who deals with it every day, can change. To accept change, we must welcome it. That’s not easy.

The challenge is to change our attitude. How’s that done? It boils down to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative…isn’t that a song….? Yes, and the next line is, “ Latch on to the affirmative, Don’t mess with Mr. In-between!”  

Meditation is a habit, a practice that leads to understanding. It helps decipher the difference between what happens externally and how we respond to the same event internally. Mediation can change an attitude. Meditation helps us look inward. 

Correct breathing, when done well, calms and slows all bodily systems. It turns down the tension, relaxes muscles and calms the brain. Which can be difficult for many first-time meditators. It sounds strange to people when they’re asked to “visualize” the breath as it enters the body and fills the lungs. Different instructors have different methods, but the reasoning is all the same.

The first part of meditation is to learn to focus. Without focus, the mind takes over. It wonders and produces distracting chatter in the head. Using the breath and visualization helps the mind to focus.

First…don’t worry about what’s not getting done while you’re meditating.

Start simple with an easy practice. Take five (5) minutes each morning before getting out of bed and each evening before going to bed.

A first attempt at meditation can have mixed results. A first response might be, “That didn’t do anything for me!” or “Nothing happened.” It takes getting used to.

Like anything else, the more we practice the better we get. In time, we learn to let it go…isn’t that a song? “Let it Go”!  Meditation will become second nature, a part of your day while driving or standing in line at the grocery store.

If you’re a true beginner check out these links and find one that you’re comfortable with. Stick with the ‘Beginning’ practice. Don’t go into all the sales and joining on the site. You’re there to learn Beginning Meditation.

Give it an honest try…you’ll grow to like it and it will be good for you on many levels.

JBittersweet has many practices on YouTube or Google JBittersweet Beginner Meditation. Spend a few minutes listening to her voice and follow her once a day 30-day meditation for beginners.

Headspace is another ‘cool’ meditation site. Google Headspace Meditation. There’s a lot of info but look to the right and click the YouTube link to get a quick idea. This ‘style’ may be more your speed. There’s an App if needed.

Lions Roar is a bit more serious meditation but Google, Lions Roar Meditation for Beginners. I couldn’t find a YouTube but there is a written explanation.

You’ll quickly see beginning meditation is all very simple and similar. Soon you’ll design your own routine and get as serious, secular or spiritual as you choose.

For our purposes, dealing with Alzheimer’s and dementia, a care giver, a couple who’s retirement plans change, a troubled family unable to make decisions, it’s a new decade, a ‘new normal’ they call it…that won’t change, you can, and true meditation will get you there.