Fear and denial are the ‘easy’ way out. Dictators or authoritarian rulers throughout history became powerful because fear is easy to spread and control. It is knowledge and understanding that get in their way. To control with power, the first obstacles they eliminate and manipulate are knowledge and education which are replaced with their emotional rhetoric.
A diagnosis of Alzheimer’s is scary for anyone to accept. A strong dose of self -confidence is important to face the fear, to look at it and learn from it. Self-confidence is established with accurate knowledge and understanding so emotions become beneficial. A gut feeling is backed-up with knowledge so emotional rhetoric doesn’t bring us back to fear.
Emotional fear messages about an Alzheimer’s diagnosis are sent out by the amygdala. It checks with the hippocampus and prefrontal cortex for past memories and any knowledge about Alzheimer’s. After a couple minutes of emotional adrenaline spikes in the form of sweaty palms, elevated heart rate, shortness of breath and others, the prefrontal cortex recognizes the knowledge it needs to help the situation, not burden it. Some may consider this part of the eighth consciousness.
Don’t give fear and denial space in your mind. Make room for knowledge and mindfulness which allows us to be good to ourselves. Then, it’s easier to be good to each other.
It’s an individual choice to learn about Alzheimer’s, to change an attitude and build self-confidence. Once that’s done, it will rub off on other family members. Mom will notice the change most. With everything else going on in her mind she will greatly appreciate a strong shoulder to lean on.
Self-confidence not only helps an individual face decisions about Alzheimer’s, but most everything in life, from health to politics.